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Kids tell little lies every day — about who spilled the juice and whether they brushed their teeth — but they don’t always imply to deceive. “Lying is a self-protective device that children learn to use at different ages and stages,” says education professor Sally Goldberg, developer of the blog Parenting suggestions with Dr. Sally. “It’s perfectly normal, but how you deal with it is important.”
Learning why kids lie is the first step in getting them to stop.
The Age: Toddlers
Why kids Lie: kids as young as 2 and 3 may tell easy lies (e.g., “I didn’t try to sit on the sleeping dog”), typically to avoid something unpleasant or to get something they want. but they don’t always grasp that fibbing is wrong.
Coming clean: Don’t accuse your child of wrongdoing and ask her to fess up; that just sets her up to lie. Instead, focus on why her action is problematic. “When the canine is sleeping, he gets frightened when something lands on him. He squealed because he was startled, and he may even be hurt.”
The Age: Preschoolers
Why kids Lie: worry of punishment is still a driving force behind lying. but at this stage, kids have rich imaginations (“Elmo ate a cookie in my bed!”) that easily transform wishful thinking to reality. Boasting (“I can do 1,000 somersaults in a row!”) is the kid version of keeping up with the Joneses.
Coming clean: Don’t bother arguing that Elmo is a puppet on TV. simply focus on what happened — someone ate a cookie in the bedroom, which isn’t allowed — and suggest a way to fix it: “Should we go clean up those crumbs together?”
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The Age: elementary school kids/preteens
Why kids Lie: By this age, lying has become a misguided survival tactic. It’s not whatsoever unusual for kids to lie occasionally to avoid punishment and skirt their chores, but now they’ll also lie to increase their self-esteem, impress their friends and otherwise assert control.Coming clean: try to identify what drove your child to lie, and help her find better ways to address the problem. If she said she did her chores, you may need to adjust your expectations; if she insists there’s no math homework (because she’s having trouble in math), offer to do it together.
Parents need to instruct the value of honesty, says Goldberg. let your kids know that lying can hurt their credibility and relationships. thank them when they tell the truth, even if it’s ugly. and model honesty yourself.
By Aviva Patz for Healthy mothers blog MagazineAviva Patz has written for numerous nationalpublications, such as Parents, Parenting, Health, Self, Redbook and Marie Claire.
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